We continue to ask for your prayers and support as we continue the search for our missing loved one Allison. It is now almost seven weeks later and we still do not have the answers we are so desperately seeking. Anyone with any knowledge or information on her disappearance please contact us or the CUE Center for Missing Persons at www.ncmissingpersons.org or the Wilmington Police Dept. Any information at all is appreciated and needed. You may remain anyonomous. Thank you and God bless you.
Allisons Family
Allisons Family
posted by Lisa @ Wednesday, September 13, 2006
97 Comments:
At September 13, 2006 9:38 AM,
Lisa said…
Allison,
If you are still out there somewhere and you have managed to get on this sight please contact us. We all miss you and need you back. We just need to know that you are ok. Your friends and family are desperately searching for you and the support and love has been overwhelming. We miss you and we love you very much, please come home. If you are still out there we want to help, no questions asked. Life will never be the same without you!
At September 18, 2006 6:06 PM,
Marcia said…
Allison? Let us know you are alright, please
At September 18, 2006 7:46 PM,
Anonymous said…
Yes , Allison if you are out there please let us know. If anyone knows anything about Allisons disappearance, please let her family know!
At September 28, 2006 9:19 AM,
Anonymous said…
An Old friend just checking in to see if you have heard anything??
Any new updates ???
God Bless you Allison where ever you are!!!
At October 06, 2006 10:06 AM,
Lisa said…
Tomorrow will be 10 weeks, and still no word. How sad, life goes on without our loved ones, but in a much different way. We lost an Aunt this week to cancer, one whom Allison loved and who loved her. We live the best we can, always feeling and knowing that a huge part of our lives and heart is missing.
I was back in North Carolina last week, and the frustration with Wilmington PD. continues. I hope in some ways I made some progress, but who knows.
Allison if you are out there please let us know. And if anyone has any information, no matter how insignificant you think it is please contact us!
Allison, always in our hearts, always loving you.
At October 08, 2006 7:18 PM,
Anonymous said…
Lisa and family ,
I graduated high school with allison and was friendly with her. I am so sorry for you and your family and my family's thoughts and prayers are with you. I check this site every day hoping to hear some good news. Don't let go of hope. I wish there was more that I could do. Stay strong
Manny
At October 10, 2006 5:50 AM,
Anonymous said…
I'm so sorry for the sorrow that your family is going through. Please know that we will keep Allison and the family in our prayers. I know Allison through our children. Her oldest daughter was one my daughters first friends when we moved here to Wilmington. I also got to know Allison through gymnastics. I live here in Wilmington and I have just found out that Allison is missing. I saw the report on the government cable channel but never saw it on the news. I did see links where there were news stories but I feel that it was not in the news enough. Hopefully they will do a follow up story soon. Also there doesn't seem to be many details to help the public help the police. Again our thoughts and prayers are for a safe return of Allison!! Stay strong.
At October 17, 2006 8:04 AM,
Lisa said…
Another week goes by and still no word. The frustration mounts even though I know we have some great people out there everyday doing all that they can to help find my sister. I think about my two nieces, Allisons daughters and my heart breaks even more. They, more than anyone deserve answers.
I want to try and use this blog to reach out to those who have been so supportive and caring, and to update you all when ever there is news.
Today, I just feel the need to share my heart. Every time I close my eyes I see my sister. Sometimes it is a recent memory and picture in my mind and other times it is of our childhood and our lives as children.Along with the tears that many times accompany those memories there are also many smiles and laughter.
Allison, what I have come to realize within my own heart is what being a sister truly means, and what being your sister has brought to my life. I will continue to do my best to continue to be that sister to you.
My faith does not end and even though I struggle and don't fully understand why things happen the way they do I know that God is with us all, and will continue to be.
I love you and miss you every moment of every day. I ask and pray for His grace, mercy and peace.
Everybody, please continue to keep us all in your prayers, as well as those who are tirelessly searching for Allison as well.
We appreciate all the emails and words of encouragement and all the prayers.
Peace and blessings to you all.
At October 19, 2006 1:40 PM,
Anonymous said…
Lisa,
Words can never express the sorrow I feel for what you are experiencing. I know that you know how much I, and all who know you, are deeply concerned about
Allison, and about you too. Your faith, your heart, your compassion lead you to do all that you can to find your sister. Regardless of obstacles, you have done what is true, what is right, and what is good, and you have continued searching, leading with your heart, your instinct, and for the most part, you have done it alone.
I know you have support, but I also know how much you've taken on. My prayers stay with you, with Allison, and her children. If someone, of the almost 8000 people who have checked this site know anything about what happened to Allison, please offer answers, offer assistance, offer peace to this family, because it is true, it is good, and it is the right thing to do.
Peace Lisa. I love you,
Kathy
At October 20, 2006 12:26 PM,
Anonymous said…
I am sending this message not to Lisa and her family but to whoever might be reading the blogs in the hopes that you might just be the person who possibly knows something about Allison.
Can you take a moment and put yourself in Allison’s family’s shoes?
Do you have a brother, sister, mother, father or a loved one that you love? Can you try to imagine if one day that person were to suddenly vanish or disappear? What would you do, what would you feel? Really think about it, what would you feel? To not know where your loved one is, to if they okay, if they hurt, if they are even alive?
I know most of us would go mad! You live every moment of your life thinking and hoping they will be found. Every time the phone rings maybe it’s news that they have been found. To live everyday life with the anguish and pain that Allison’s family, daughters, sisters, father live with is not fair and it’s not humane.
If you look at the web links and read the stories of other families who also have loved ones that have disappeared you get an understanding of what these people’s lives have become. I urge you to read them and just take a moment and imagine if it was YOUR loved one. The unknown is cruel, and so totally unnecessary.
Allison’s family needs closure; they need to know where Allison is. If you have it in your power and you know what happened or where she might be, I beg you to send her family the information they seek.
That is all they are asking for. Please do it and do it soon.
Anonymous
At October 23, 2006 1:26 PM,
Anonymous said…
This is to anyone out there reading this who can help.We need you!
We are now approaching week thirteen of this horrendous and tragic event in our lives. Our frustration and sadness grows with each and everyday. We miss Allison and for the sake of her children and Father and all of us we need to know what happened.
We are begging anyone who saw what happened in Junction Pub and Billards to please contact either us or CUE Center or Wilmington PD. Someone had to see how she left the pub that night and with who, if anyone. Allison just did not vanish into thin air.Names, descriptions of cars or people, anything no matter how insignifigant you think it is, is important! Even if you know someone who knows something, talk to them. You may remain anonymous.
Please, please help us so we can get the closure that we need and we can help her girls know the truth. Allison deserves it and so do her children.
We don't know how else to ask, please help us if you can. We will be eternally grateful and you will have done something amazing for our family.
Bless you all.
We miss you Allison, and we will never stop searching!
At October 30, 2006 1:16 AM,
Anonymous said…
I saw in the news there is another woman missing from Wilmington NC ??
WHAT IS GOING ON ???????????
Emily Moxley missing since 9-29-06
www.wect.com/Global/story.asp?s=5546138
Just thought this might help ??
Maybe put a fire under the tales of the Wilmington PD !!!
At November 01, 2006 3:43 PM,
Lisa said…
One thing my family and I have discovered since this whole nightmare began is how many people are walking in our shoes.
So many people go missing and so many families are living the same nightmare. Police Dept.'s all over this country need to start taking missing adult cases more seriously and act much faster so these cases do not go cold. Wilmington PD.could have and should have done more in Allisons case from the beginning, but this is where we are now. We need to change the laws concerning missing adults.Check out the statutes on this web page concerning new laws, write your representatives. We all can make a difference together.
Please pray for all those families missing loved ones and for all those who tirelessly search for them.
At November 29, 2006 10:00 AM,
Lisa said…
It has been over four months and the first of the Holidays come and gone, and still no word from or of Allison. I know my sister, and she would never not speak to her children on a day like Thanks giving. Just more proof that she has not walked away on her own accord. That scenerio just doesn't make any sense.
Now her daughters and we, her family and friends try as best we can to get through this season of our life. It is with great sadness and great difficulty that we do so.
I realize that the old saying is so true, sometimes we don't realize how much we miss something or someone until they are gone. We are all so busy and caught up in our own lives that we forget what is truly important and what brings us the most joy. Allison, I miss you every second of every day and my love for you is unending.
This Holiday season be thankful for all the people whom God has blessed your life with and tell them how you feel, it is always good to hear.
I implore anyone out there who saw anything or knows of anything about Allison and what happened to please contact us or Cue Center or Wilmington PD. What a wonderful gift that would be for Allison's children and family this Holiday season.
I will be back in Wilmington Dec 2 through the 6th, so please keep me and all of those who search tirelessly for my sister in your prayers.
God bless you all and may the peace and joy of this season live in your hearts.
At December 18, 2006 11:08 AM,
Lisa said…
This time of year is a time to experience love and grace and peace and miracles in our hearts and in our lives. Christmas is a time of great joy and expectations, and I will never stop believing that.
That being said, I know that this Christmas will also be much harder for my family with out Allison, and without knowining where she is or what has happened. We, like so many out there with missing people are seeking resolution.
When somebody becomes missing in your life, you must learn to live in a different way. Like all things in life that occur and are unexpectede, and perhaps tragic we still must move forward. However we move forward in a way that is new and challenging.I move forward with graet sadness about Allison and her whereabouts, but there are also still many blessings in my life and many things to be thankful for. Through theses hard times I try to focus on the good and trust my God that He will take care of what needs to be taken care of.
I was back in North Carolina at the beginning of the month trying to find three girls from the Raleigh Durham area who saw Allison at the pub that night. We still have not been able to locate them. Please girls if you are out there contact us somehow, either through this website, Cue Center for missing persons, the police, our private investigator, anyone. You all may hold the key we are looking for. What an amazing gift this would be for our family this time of year.Anything you saw or heard could be extremely helpful, and we need all the help we can get.
God Bless you all this Christmas ad whatever you celebrate in your families. Continue to kepp Allison in your prayers, and be thankful for what you have.
Peace,
Lisa
At December 23, 2006 2:45 AM,
Anonymous said…
Allison and other family,
I see your youngest daughter nearly every day. She is getting bigger and more beautiful. She was recently an angel in a school play, and she was invited to join the competitive team at gymnastics. She talks about you all the time and misses you greatly. She cut her hair again and plans to see her sister again soon. Believe it or not, she laughs a lot and is a relatively happy child most of the time. She had trouble sleeping for a little while, but even that is getting better.
There are constant questions asked of me, your husband, and other friends from everyone who knew you. The most asked question has to be, "Why hasn't any of Allison's friends, past employers, or anyone else who knew her before the disappearance been questioned about anything in any way?"
At December 24, 2006 12:03 PM,
Lisa said…
To the person who posted this last blog,
I am glad to hear that my niece is adjusting as best as possible. We all miss her very much and when possible we reach out to her, she is a big concern in our lives and like our other niece we love them and pray for them constantly.
Allison's life was her children and she loved them both so much, I know for her they are her greatest accomplishments.
Some of Allison's friends have been questioned, but others have not stepped forward, and we are not even sure who some of her friends were. If you have some additional info., names etc. we can be contacted annonomously through this website. May be one of her friends holds the key.
Please think about it and help us all get some resolution.
Thank you and please all of Allisons friends if you know anything or even have a feeling let us know.
Peace
At December 27, 2006 6:27 PM,
Anonymous said…
Thanksgiving and Christmas have come and gone. Anyone who believes that the mother of these two wonderful girls has just walked away from them, leaving them with question upon question, abandonment issues and a huge hole in their heart, simply did not know Allison. I did. In fact, I last saw Allison in June when she brought Jordan to visit her cousins and Aunt and Uncle. Allison proudly gave me a picture of Jordan in her dance outfit which is still on my refrigerator.
If you are reading this and are in contact with either of Allison's daughters, as one anonymous blogger mentioned,you of all people know, Allison adored them. She didn't miss the holidays on purpose.
Please, please, if you know anything or anyone that might provide any information as to the whereabouts of Allsion, be in touch via this blog or through email. Even an occasional update on news such as the girls activities as you wrote, would be such a blessing.
Since Allson disappeared, the communication has been difficult at best and it is just heartbreaking on every level.
Allison, if their is a miracle waiting for us, and you can come home, you will be received with nothing but open arms and a huge amount of love. That has never changed no matter what.
If there is a chance for peace for this family, please do what you can to offer it now.
Kathy
At December 31, 2006 12:52 PM,
Anonymous said…
Unfortunately, the face you all saw and the face she was showing before her disappearance were very different. Most things being said by those who knew her in Wilmington are not good. If you are all interested in hearing the bad with the good, I am happy to share it. My concern is that it will be taken the wrong way.
Several of us held an intervention for her about 6 weeks before her disappearance. Allison was not well. She was stealing money from everyone she knew, including her employers, and she currently has warrants out for her arrest. Most of us feel she did walk away, not because she didn't love her kids but because she did.
She was deep in dept and in more trouble than she cared to share with anyone. We loved her and her kids and tried desperately to help her. She kept her husband in the dark and left behind many bills he had to face alone after her disappearance.
I say all of this out of concern, not anger or spite. Allison would like to be remembered as a martyr, but maybe if she reads this and has to face the truth she will come forward. If she is out there somewhere and of her own free will, she needs help. Nobody was able to say for sure what she needed all that money for, but it wasn't going towards her bills.
Her kids need her back, but as the person she pretended to be, not the person she was before she left.
Please understand that I was one of her closest friends, and it has taken a lot of soul searching and prayer to get me to the point where I feel the truth should be told. Be mad at me if you must, but the truth is the truth.
At December 31, 2006 4:53 PM,
Lisa said…
wow, it sounds as if there is a lot of anger behind your words and if you believe that my sister walked away of her own free will you are not a friend and did not know her very well at all!
There are a lot of things going on behind the scenes with people in her life that I will not get into, because it serves no one. Suffice to say a lot of people involved in her life and in this situation are not who they say they are or claim to be.
If you know so much about the last six weeks of Allisons life tell me why people who were with her at the last hours say that it was the happiest and most upbeat they had seen her in months. That is not to say that there were not problems in her life and like all humans that she did'nt make mistakes.
However what I have seen and heard from people I trust is that she was turning her life around and trying to make changes. Now is certainly not the time to condemn or throw stones. Believe me I could do that with a lot of people involved in this if I thought it would help!
Now should be a time to come together and find out what happened to Allison for all our sakes. Her daughters more than anyone deserve that.
I have known my sister for 34 years and I believe with all my heart that she did not walk away. If she did I know at the very least she would have called to say leave me alone I am okay. Whenever there were problems in her life before she reached out for help.
I certainly do not need to defend Allison to you or anyone else. Please contact me via email and lets discuss what you know, and who all these other people are that have not come forward. We all need and deserve peace, and that includes Allison.
I could say so much more about the current situation now between her family and ours but I won't. Her daughters know we love them and that their Mom does too.
All we are looking for are answers, the truth, so that we can all get some much deserved resolution and peace.
Look past any anger you have, as I must do daily in dealing with the people involved in this situation and let their be compassion.
I am willing to speak with you at any time, please contact me via this site.
Perhaps if we could all work together we could all get the answers we need.
I will never stop looking or loving!
At January 02, 2007 8:39 PM,
Anonymous said…
That is exactly what I did not want to happen. I did not want to anger you or make it seem as if I am angry. I purposely left out all details because I don't feel it is my place to condemn her or anyone.
The only reason I spoke up is because I am concerned for not only her, but her daughters. Neither child was blind to what was going on, and one left of her own free will because it became too much.
One thing I will say is that the day Allison disappeared she falsely accused someone of calling DSS on her. She phoned a friend, crying, asking for money because her car was being repossessed. This friend deferred. Later that evening Allison called her again, this time laughing and happy, just to tell her she was fine, she had found the money she needed, and in fact had a new car. She also said not to worry about her because she had a plan.
This was the same night she disappeared.
I personally had not spoken to her in weeks because I could not sit back and watch her ruin her life.
She was very good at pretending everything was fine. I completely understand why you would not be able to see it from so far away.
I wish she would be found more than anyone, because I hear her daughter's words and see her daughter's pain daily. She is missed, but she was not well. She was without a doubt an alcoholic or worse.
I know too many people hurt or taken advantage by her to feel it ok to be called a liar. I speak only the truth. I know so much from so many people about her life the year leading up to this.
I don't want to broadcast it all because I don't want to hurt her or you. If she is still out there, she needs help. Her frame of mind might be that she barely remembers herself let alone her children.
I'm truly sorry.
At January 03, 2007 9:43 AM,
Lisa said…
It seems as if you know a lot that other people didn't. I am not calling you a liar, but perhaps if you contact me through this site by email we can resolve some things.
Have you told the police all you know? I am not looking to blame anyone here, I just want to know what happened.
Again we all need resolution. This blog is certainly not the place to be airing dirty laundry. Help us get the answers we are all so desperately in search of.
If you ever were Allison's friend contact me, come forward with the information you have and who gave it to you. Please do the right thing so that we can all get some peace in our lives.
We all have problems, we are all human and we all make mistakes. If Allison is out there I would welcome her back with open arms and get her any type of help she needed.
Please contact me.
At January 03, 2007 8:33 PM,
Anonymous said…
To the anonymous 'best friend' of Allison: I am dumbfounded by your assertations of love for Allison and her children while at the same time publicly 'broadcasting' her dirty laundry on a site created for and dedicated to finding her.
Your words offer no solace to this family, though they are clearly not intended too. You speak of being in touch with one of Allison's daughters daily, while Allison's family tries desperately to maintain a relationship with her, to no avail.
You say perhaps this family was out of touch with who Allison was before her disappearance, good and bad, so you'd like to clear up just how 'bad' she is. As Lisa's best friend, I have more knowledge about the life of Allison than you or anyone who has known her a few short years ever will.
Trust me, no one who knows, and truly loves Allison lives in the dark about her human frailties, nor do we deny her her strengths. Clearly, one of the frailties I speak of is her ability to choose the kinds of people she should allow into her life.
If you are truly her best friend, even after bowing out of her life when it sounds like she needed your help the most, why would you wait four months to start airing what you deem to be the truth about Allison? Why would you do it on this site? Why would you not immediately contact this family, the CUE center or the police for God's sake, if you have such evidence that may in fact bring her home?
Is it that difficult for you to allow people to love Allison, to speak highly of her, regardless of weaknesses, when you obviously could not, and still don't?
If someone has made mistakes in their lives, do they deserve to disappear, to lose their family, to die?? The only thing your comments do, is reignite the flickering hope that maybe Allison did in fact walk away. Maybe it is possible...maybe. Any one of us would be undendingly grateful if that were the case.
Perhaps if you could find that old love for her, regardless of what you alledge she was up to, you could actually come forward to the family, with real names, real facts, real witnesses to back you up...people who may in fact hold clues to her whereabouts.
It is clear to this family that if Allison is able to come home, out there somewhere, she needs help more than ever, and no one, least of all Lisa, offers judgement or the need to laundry list for all to read what mistakes Allison may or may not have made.
Do you honestly believe in the short time you've apparently known her that you have more a bead on Allison than her own sister? Of all the many people you speak of who you say feel were hurt or taken advantage of by Alliosn, and do not wish to be called liars, which one of you/them has been on hand to assist this family in their time of grief and pain and anguish?
Not ONE, not any single ONE of the lot of you has come forward to assist in finding Allison with news of cars and money and plans! How dare you assert all this and not be willing to offer this family real facts, real names, real evidence when it is THEY...Lisa, their 77 year old Father, not you, not Allison's husband, not the friends you speak of who have been searching swamp land, and fields and dark wooded areas for the body of Allison because they have had so very little to go on, nothing to make them believe she walked away at 2am on a Saturday night after having a few drinks with a friend!!??!! That was some plan she had indeed. Really, how dare you expect anyone suffering through this not be angry with your 'truths'!
Do a favor to all, bring forward your 'information' not because you feel it important to enlighten what you apparently believe is a family unaware of the many facets of their sibling/daughter, but because for God's sake, it is the right thing to do, for Allison, her children and her family that lives daily with the anguish of her disappearance.
Be sorry enough to do that.
Kathy
At January 04, 2007 12:19 AM,
Anonymous said…
To the anonymous close friend of Allison,
I feel I must echo my friend's request that you contact Lisa through this site. You were afraid your comments would be taken the wrong way. If they were meant to help in any way, clearly they have been.
Why not help by sharing what you know directly? The email address is CONTACTUS@HELPFINDALLISON.COM. You may not even realize how helpful what you know may be.
NOT doing so only solidifies the thought that you are posting comments on here out of anger or spite. These may be valid feelings you have towards Allison, but you're not reaching her. Your concern, as you put it, is not helping her. You are simply hurting good people who are enduring desperate times.
The email address is CONTACTUS@HELPFINDALLISON.COM, please use it.
-pjr
At January 04, 2007 9:29 PM,
Monica Caison said…
Anonymous said...
Unfortunately, the face you all saw and the face she was showing before her disappearance were very different.
MANY PEOPLE HAVE BEEN INTERVIEWED AND MORE IS SAID GOOD THAN BAD OF ALLISON; PEOPLE WILL ALL HAVE THEIR OWN OPINION.
Most things being said by those who knew her in Wilmington are not good. If you are all interested in hearing the bad with the good, I am happy to share it.
UNLESS YOU KNOW WHERE ALLISON IS OR WHERE SHE WAS GOING IT WOULD BE HELPFUL TO SHARE WITH THOSE INVESTIGATING HER DISAPEEARANCE, OTHERWISE IS WOULD NOT BE USEFUL.
My concern is that it will be taken the wrong way.
Several of us held an intervention for her about 6 weeks before her disappearance. Allison was not well. She was stealing money from everyone she knew, including her employers, and she currently has warrants out for her arrest.
THIS INFORMATION IS KNOWN AND THE WARRANTS ARE PETTY, SHE WOULD NOT EVEN DO JAIL TIME; CERTAINLY NOT RUN AWAY WHEN SHE KNOWS HER FAMILY WOULD HELP HER.
Most of us feel she did walk away, not because she didn't love her kids but because she did.
YOU CAN WALK AWAY BUT YOU STILL CALL OR SEND A LETTER TO LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU ARE OKAY. ALOT OF TIME HAS PASSED FOR ONE TO REFLECT AND MAKE CONTACT.NO MATTER HOW BAD THINGS ARE HER FAMILY KNEW HER WHEREABOUTS.
She was deep in dept and in more trouble than she cared to share with anyone.
SHE DID SHARE AND THIS IS NOT NEWS.
We loved her and her kids and tried desperately to help her. She kept her husband in the dark and left behind many bills he had to face alone after her disappearance.
EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO AN OPINION, BUT EACH STORY ALWAYS HAS 2 SIDES.
I say all of this out of concern, not anger or spite. Allison would like to be remembered as a martyr, but maybe if she reads this and has to face the truth she will come forward.
WE CAN ONLY HOPE SHE WILL BE ABLE TO READ THIS TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HER FAMILY IS GOING THROUGH.
If she is out there somewhere and of her own free will, she needs help.
WHICH WILL BE AVAIABLE FOR HER
Nobody was able to say for sure what she needed all that money for, but it wasn't going towards her bills.
YOU MIGHT BE WRONG
Her kids need her back, but as the person she pretended to be, not the person she was before she left.
??
Please understand that I was one of her closest friends, and it has taken a lot of soul searching and prayer to get me to the point where I feel the truth should be told. Be mad at me if you must, but the truth is the truth.
ALLISON WAS NOT PERFECT AS YOU NOR I ARE....WHEN A PERSON IS MISSING THEIR ENTIRE LIFE BECOMES ON DISPLAY AND JUDGED BY MANY; EVEN STRANGERS. AS AN ADVOCATE FOR THIS CASE AND ONE WHO KNOWS MORE THAN YOU ABOUT HER PRIVATE LIFE, I SEE YOU ARE NOT AWARE OF ALOT OF THINGS AND MAYBE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WAS NOT WHAT YOU THGOUTH IT WAS; IF SHE HIDE SO MUCH THEN MAYBE SHE ALSO HID FROM YOU. NONE OF THIS MATTERS AT THIS POINT UNLESS ONE HAS INFORMATION ON HER WHEREABOUTS OR THAT OF HER LAST ACTIONS THE NIGHT SHE VANISHED. OUR CENTER WOULD BE VERY INTERESTED IN ANY 'FACTS" YOU HAVE THAT COULD LEAD US TO ALLISON FOY. THANK YOU
NOT ANONYMOUS
MONICA CAISON
SORRY FOR WRITING IN CAPS I COULD NOT GET A DIFFERENT FONT.
December 31, 2006 12:52 PM
At January 07, 2007 5:14 PM,
Anonymous said…
To The Good Friend of Allison that waited 5 months to come forward with information:
What a good friend you must have been. Who did you think you were helping keeping all your information silent until now? The family has been begging for information, ANY information, regarding Allison for 5 long and brutal months. They never said contact us with good things to say only. Did it ever occur to you that the information you claim to have cuts both ways? Yes, it could be reasons for Allison to run and hide. They could also be reasons for someone to want revenge for what you claim Allison may have done to them.
It is unconscionable that you waited so long to state your views and alleged knowledge of so many details that could have helped so long ago. I can't imagine how you can justify that to yourself. I only hope you have the fortitude to come forward with all information you have to the proper people that can scrutinize the information try to glean something that can lead to an answer for Allison's family.
At January 11, 2007 9:21 AM,
Anonymous said…
January 11, 2007
Another day passes and at the end of this month it will be six months without a word from Allison, or any clue as to what happened. How does a person just vanish into thin air?
Every one has a different theory, a feeling, a story, but no one has answers or evidence. Whatever has happened, we just seek the truth, we just want to know where Allison is, dead or alive, in need of help, whatever.
My family with the help of CUE Center and a private investigator have been doing all that is possible over the last 5 1/2 months to get to the truth and to find Allison. We have had the support of many friends and even strangers as well.
That being said, it seems as if there are still people out there who have information or know things about the day of Allisons disappearance who say they were friends but have not come forward with who they are or what they know. People who claim to love her children, but will not help us get to the truth, so that her children can know the truth.
I do not know how to ask any more, except to say please please to the person who posted those two blogs about Allisons last day etc. please contact me through this site and lets talk. There is no anger or judgement, we just need to know what it is that you know. Who were these people she spoke with. Please come forward if not to me then to Cue Center or Wilmington PD or our Private Investigator. We need your help.
We as a family implore you to do this. If anyone out there knows anything please contact us. Whatever the situation we need to bring Allison home. Contact@helpfindallison.com
Thank you,
Allisons Family
At January 12, 2007 3:06 PM,
Anonymous said…
To Allison's family,
Isn't there a way to resolve the I.P. address and find out what computer that blog was posted from? Isn't this a criminal investigation?
A concerned friend
At January 13, 2007 4:01 AM,
Anonymous said…
I recently came across this site and it is the first time I heard of her missing. (Though I do not live there.) I was wondering if you have attempted to take it on a national news (ie: Greta Van Sust.)or something similar.
I have one brief comment about the person that wrote saying they know her. I did not feel she/he was trying to cause pain from what I read and it seems "attacking" them is only going to drive them further away, anyway as an outsider looking in that is only my opinion. May God lay it on the hearts of anyone who knows anything to came forward.
I truly hope with God's grace you find your sister, daughter and friend and get some answers real soon. I cannot imagine the pain going through something such as this. I pray God continues to give your family strength on your journey to find Allison.
God Bless you all
At January 21, 2007 11:50 PM,
Anonymous said…
I did not come forward sooner, because this website was not known to me before. My question asking why no one was contacted was honest. I know a lot of people who knew her, but for whatever reason they either did not know she had disappeared or were never questioned.
We were her friends until she pushed us all away by taking advantage of that friendship. At which point, I put my goodwill towards her children. I have already shared what I have been told about the day she disappeared. If the woman she spoke to chooses to come forward she will do so of her own freewill, not because I gave her name out.
There are still a lot of people in Wilmington, mostly casual acquantances who still have no idea she is missing.
I thought about it, and I think I was mad before but not at Allison. I was upset that any detail that may be negative has been excluded from all news reports and this site.
You have to hear the bad with the good if you want the truth. I have waited to write back because I got tired of being attacked.
Why would anyone want to share their name when you all so obviously don't care to hear the bad even if it could help? I don't think this approach will help others to come forward. Do you?
All I think I have left to say is that I mentioned the money thing as a way of getting you to think as I do. She needed more and more money and got more and more brave taking it. I agree that she may not have walked away and may have gotten into trouble. Don't you think that finding out what all that money went towards would help your investigation?
I dream of her often. In my dreams she comes back safe and sound. I guess I haven't given up on her yet. Gook luck.
At January 23, 2007 9:16 AM,
Lisa said…
To the previous blogger,
First let me say that in no way did I mean to attack you. I understand your problems with Allison, and believe me, I know, the situations that you speak of. I just don't think that the way you have posted them are helpful to this investigation at all.
Put yourself in my shoes for just one moment. For six months now my life and the lives of my family has been an emotional roller coaster, not to mention emotionally and physicaly exhausting. I have been doing everything in my power to find my sister, so that all of us can have some peace and resolution, not to mention the fact that no matter what anyone says or thinks she has done she deserves to be found.
The police started this investigation with doing too little too late to begin with, so I imagine that is why many of the people you speak of have not been questioned. I now know that this is true of many cases that involve missing adults, it is assumed that they just walked away.
There are so many more things that I would love to say about this situation but again, I do not because in the end it is not helpful.
If you ever were Allisons friend as you say, please do the right thing and tell the police or me or CUE Center or our P.I. what it is that you know. Maybe the person she spoke with can give us an important detail that could lead all of us to the truth. That is the right thing to do.
Again, I am sorry if you felt attacked but there are so many lives involved here, and I know my sister had problems and was not perfect, but who is? I just want to know what happened. Speak to the friend you speak of or please find it in your heart to come forward and contact me through this site.
It is obvoius that you have strong feelings about Allison and this situation, good or bad it does not matter, what matters is that whatever you know, you need to share. Names places etc. Please do what is right.
The search will never end and I will never stop until the truth is discovered, whatever that may be. Nothing will ever change my love for Allison. We all live this life the best way we know how, and it is not for any of us to judge. We need to be there to help whenever we can and love always.
Thankfully we have a forgiving God who welcomes us back always, and Allison too, is always welcome back!
If you can find it within to contact me through this site and e mail please do, it would be greatly appreciated.
May God bless us all.
At January 25, 2007 12:59 PM,
Katherine said…
Lisa I am so sorry for what you are going through. I know you are always saying to stop saying I'm sorry, but I am. So deeply sorrowful over what's happened. Cannot even fathom if something happened to Dani, or Chris. Or you. I don't know how you keep going, raising your children, taking care of family, your student's, your class, your friends.
I know in many ways how you do it, because when something of this magnitude occurs your reality forever changes, this new unknown maddeningly becomes the familiar, and you do keep going.
Allison is so blessed to have you as a sister, to stand vigilant in your search, in your faith. I know you live with the frustration and sadness and depression and anger and pain that entered your life so swiftly the day you got the call that Allison was missing.
I wish so much in my heart that Michael had done the right thing and moved much more quickly, that the police had given value to Allison's disappearance, to her life, as opposed to denouncing her because she wasn't 'the doctor's wife' or the 'homecoming queen'. She deserved better...and so did you.
You are in this odd club now. One that at times is shrouded in secrets and lies, full of grieving parents and children and siblings and friends. The unanswered questions becomes your fuel to continue. And so you do.
Do not ever question if you've done the right thing, you have and you continue to. So many involved have not done what is right. Have been self serving, critical, downright mean. You have stayed with your truth, which is that you love Allison and her children. That you want them all in your life and you will not stop until that happens. I'm so thankful that Scott is so supportive of your relationship with Courtney. She needs you more now than other. I wish the same could be said of Michael, becuase Jordan needs you too.
My prayer today is for God to give you relief. To bring Allison home. To open Michael's heart so that Jordan's Aunt and cousins can continue to be in her life, as family should be.
My prayer to God is to help find peace and forgiveness toward those that obstruct your search in any way, to offer compassion and love to their human weakness.
God Bless You Lisa, I am here for you.
I love you,
Kath
At January 29, 2007 11:59 AM,
Michael DeMeo said…
Dear Allison,
You are an awesome person loved by so many - please know of our worry for you.... Please let Lisa know that you are alive. Her number is 201-401-1664. No questions asked! Just let all who love you know that you are ok. We will not stop praying for you and looking for you.
Remember "Koon oon epsla oon?"... I now life is a lot harder than those days of childhood and all - but there is still another chance. Don't forget this!
I miss you Allison! And your children and Lisa miss you 100 times more...
I send you love and courage today,
Michael DeMeo
At January 30, 2007 8:29 AM,
Lisa said…
HOPE...something that is so important,something that the previous blogger, our family friend Michael still holds on to.
As the months go on that hope gets harder and harder for me to cling to, yet in the end it is one of the things that gives us the strength to carry on and see this nightmare through to the end.
With all my heart and soul I pray for Allisons safe return, however as the months pass this seems more and more unlikely.
We are still waiting for people to step up and tell us what they know, why is this so difficult? Someone saw or knows something more than we do.
The search still continues on and the faith and hope of others encourage and inspire us all to hang on to whatever hope is left in our hearts. Those searching and advocating for Allison and our family continue to bring us hope, hope for some resolution, even though it may not be the one we all HOPE for.
Allison all we have now and have ever had for you is love!
Once again I implore any of you with any knowledge of this situation to please step forward and help us.
Peace to all.
At February 01, 2007 12:48 PM,
Anonymous said…
To everyone and anyone,
The CUE Center is holding a National Conference in Wilmington March 23rd - 25th, 2007. We WILL be there.
There are a number of people from Wilmington who have posted comments here about knowing Allison and her children, this would be a great opportunity to meet with each other. I know words could not express what it would mean to Allison's family.
More information about the conference will be posted on this site or visit http://www.ncmissingpersons.org/
Love & Dreams,
-pjr
At February 04, 2007 1:29 AM,
Anonymous said…
I am sorry that allison's daughter,jordan, is going through all of this heartache. I have known jordan for about a year now and she is quite an amazing little girl. I am not forgetting that allison also has another daughter that I have never met named courtney.
I also happen to be very good friends with jordans dad, mike. Alot of people want to take the easy way out and acuse and condemn him automaticly. The whole story has not really been told. There are things that mike and the girls went through before allisons disapearance. Roses have thorns, I just hope that people concentrate harder on finding allison and not attacking a now single parent who is busting his back to keep what is left of his family together. If the energy spent looking into mike's truck, job, and even his former backyard were spent on the real problem, maybe we would all be a little further along. I wish someone would look into the snowball that became this avalanche. Mike has made it clear that he would do anything that he needs to do to cooperate with any and all authorities. He should not be challenged as to the decisions that he is making for his family by anyone. He is now the only parent in the picture and should be respected as such.
At February 04, 2007 10:19 AM,
Lisa said…
Here we go again. I do not know why all of you who are Mike's friends feel as if Allisons family is condemning him and want to "take the easy way out". Nothing could be farther from the truth.
The police run their own investigation and do what they feel needs to be done. Believe me, if I had a say in the matter or anyone in my family I would have told them to do many things differently. In any investigation the people closest to those missing are always the first investigated and investigated thouroughouly. I am sure you have all heard of Scott Peterson. My family does not tell the police who should or should not be looked at.
I have avoided saying anything publicly about Mike for six months, and it is you his friends who bring him up and try to make my family look bad. You all don't even know us, none of you have stepped up to see if you could help in any way at all. Those of you who claim to know things have not spoken to the police or CUE or my family through this site.
You all seem to think that we don't know Allison as you all do, nothing is further from the truth. The difference is we want to know what happened to her so that we can all get some peace and resolution in our lives, and because regardless of what any of you think she is a human being and deserves that. She is also my fathers daughter and a sister, and as you say a mother. Her daughters desreve the truth.
Please stop trying to put blame on my family for loving our family member and trying to do what is right. Again you say Mike cooperates with the authorities and I know to a certain extent he has and I know he his trying to do whats best for his daughter. However I have been denied acccess to her so have my children and her Grandfather. I saw Jordan at my house for a week, a month before Allison went missing. She also saw her grandfather. I vistied in NC with my children the summer before and always spoke with her on the phone. She is a part of our lives as we are hers. Now I am being told I can't even send her a Christmas gift.We have been taken away as well. I am a parent and that is not a healthy thing to do. I would respect her father, but he certainly has no respect for me or my family.
I am sure he will continue to bad mouth us all, but I too know a lot and saw alot during the time I visited. He can say what he wants about us, but his words have a lot of anger behind them.
I am tired of all this bad mouthing, I would think that all of us just want the truth and answers so that we can all find some peace in our hearts and lives.
There is much more I could say, but I won't do it here. I will also not hide behind my comments anonymously, as I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. If loving my sister no matter what, and seeking the truth, and looking for answers is wrong, then I am guilty.
I and some friends and family will be in Wilmington from March 23-26th at CUE Centers Missing Persons conference. I would love to meet all of you anonymous friends and get to the truth. As always I can be reached through this site.
Please, stop judging my family and I for trying to find our daughter, sister and mother of our nieces. I would hope that you all would do the same.
At February 06, 2007 7:30 PM,
Anonymous said…
Dear Allison,
In the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ, come home!
+ Anony.
At February 07, 2007 10:22 AM,
Steph~ said…
For gods name people !!!
Stop with all this nonsense &
contact Lisa already...
I come to this blog on a daily basis for one reason & one reason only ...
The blog we are all waiting for !!!
the one saying Allison has been found & is coming home safe & sound !!
If you have info that will help contact LISA DAY OR NIGHT !!!!
She will be able to take whatever you have to say .. But stop using this blog under an anonymous name...
Come forward so the family can continue on with there lives in peace !!!!!!!!
AND YES !!!!
FOR GOD SAKE ALLISON COME HOME !!!!!!
Steph~
At February 08, 2007 12:57 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hello,
I'm not someone who is involved in this case in any way. I just happened to see your signs on The Today Show & have followed this site ever since. I've praying & hoping along with everyone else that Allison is brought home safely.
I do have an opinion, but my opinion is based solely on what i have read here. I have concerns along with many others about the anonymous blogger who claims to be a "close friend". Has anyone considered it possible that she was or is involved with Allison's husband? She mentions numerous times about him struggleing with their daughter, & about how the girl is doing. So she obviously spends a good deal of time around them. It is interesting that Lisa mentioned Scott Peterson in her last entry. I'm concerned that this could be a similair case. If he has nothing to hide then why won't he let the girls see their family, let alone send gifts. For that matter why is anyone hiding if everyone who are blogging claiming to be friends but don't wanna give police their "helpful" info that they claim to have, then they are obviously afraid of something. Which leads me to believe thast they are only coming forward to this extent to try to divert some blame or investigating off of Allison's husband. Trying to establish reasonable doubt.
Like I said earlier I realise I am not involved in this case, but I wanted to give a non-biais third party opinion. maybe in the hopes that the family could at least investigate this angle to see if there is any possiblity of it. The "friend" has to have a reason why she is remaining anonymous & refusing to contact you or comeforward, & I doubt her reason is good. We will all continue to pray & hope for Allison's safe & speedy return as well as for your family to finally reach peace. God Bless you all who are helping in the search efforts.
At February 09, 2007 10:26 PM,
Anonymous said…
Lets not get off the track in which is most important right now; Allison and her whereabouts. The husband is NOT important, he never got out and searched for her or for answers "I have been there" fact!
The children are being cared for and if Allison was such a sorry person and he did so much then he should not be struggling but rather used to taking it all on. In fact he did not, and this is all new (struggle). thank you Monica Caison
At March 02, 2007 10:28 AM,
Lisa said…
Today is another emotional day in the search for my sister Allison. March 2...her birthday. A day to celebrate and be thankful and happy. Allison is 35 today.
I will celebrate Allison today and offer her up in prayers and remembrance. I will remember and celebrate all the good times we shared in our lives together and I will try my best to remain hopeful.
To any of you reading this today please keep Allison in your thoughts and prayers, as well as her Father and her children and the rest of her family and those who miss and love her.
Allison, if you are out there please call or contact us in any way you can. We are here for you always, no matter what. We miss you!
Happy Birthday Sister, I love you! Know that my heart is always with you, and my thoughts never far from you.
Lisa
At March 20, 2007 9:08 AM,
Lisa said…
Almost 8 months and all roads seem to lead us right back where we started. I still can't believe that this is now life as we know it. This is one roller coaster ride that we would all like to get off.
Whatever happened prior to Allison's disappearance, whatever anyone has to say good or bad really does not matter. The only thing that matters now is that we find out what happened and get to the truth. Someone, somewhere knows something. Please come forward and share what you know, if not for Allison or my family, think of her children, they need and deserve to know.
My family and friends of Allison will be in Wilmington at CUE Centers national missing persons conference this weekend, March 22-25. If anyone wants to contact us and meet with us now is your opportunity. You can reach us through this site, or CUE Center or even through Wilmington PD. We are interested in all you have to say.
Continue to think of Allisons children they deserve answers.
At March 21, 2007 11:21 PM,
Anonymous said…
Have any of you concidered that maybe the people who knew her don't want to share their names because they have seen what Mike has gone through? If the person closest to her gets unjustly accused and dragged through the mud, then what is going to happen to all the people she wronged who come forward with not so nice things to say. If those who loved her get false accusations, then what hope would others have?
Even from a simple set of blogs, there are attacks both on character and motive.
I hope the people who know things can find the courage to share with you. But given the circumstances, anonymous might feel like the safest way.....not because of guilt but to preserve their own families peace and their own good name.
I am glad to see there is more than one person who has come forward through this site.
At March 22, 2007 1:05 PM,
Katherine said…
I continue to be amazed at the gall of some of the bloggers who 'anonymously' log in to this site, to offer nothing but derisive and defamatory comments regarding Allison.
Michael has shown little or no regard for the relatives of Allison who have continued to try and be in Jordan's life. As much as some bloggers continue to 'defend' Michael's name, there is no defese for a man who has shown little or no concern for his missing wife, didn't report it for three days, cancelled her cell phone and has since turned his rage on Allison's family. These are facts, not conjecture. If this is the behavior you defend, please do it elsewhere.
Love should not be conditional when it comes to family. In every marriage there are two sides to every story, two people who are responsible for the relationship. The ills they perhaps perpetrated on each other is none of your business nor is it mine.
I care for Allison's well being. For Jordan's safety. For Courtney's future. Anyone concerned more about themselves then these children need seriously look at their own motives for stalking this blog and repeatedly using it to hurt this family.
If you want to come forward with something tangible with regards to what may have happened to Allison, this site repeatedly offers you anonymous ways to do so. Through CUE, through the police department. If you come only to offer ill will, take it elsewhere. Michael has made his own bed. Perhaps the same can be said for Allison. This family deserves answers, deserves peace, as do the children who don't care what mommy did or didn't do, they only want their mommy back.
At March 25, 2007 6:37 PM,
Anonymous said…
From Mike Foy.
Do you people really want to know why I haven't combed through fields, scoured neighborhoods, and put up posters begging for help in finding Allison? Here we go...
Allison had started a new job about four days before she vanished. She had come home from work one day and told me that she had to return to work at six pm. And would return home at around ten pm.
At about nine thirty pm I called her job to see if she could stop at the store on the way home.I was told that she was not there. I called her cellphone and she told me that she was smoking a cigarette and was on the way. At ten forty five I called her cell again. This time, no answer. I called that number twenty six times before she finally answered. I told her to come right home. She had to take care of our daughter,Jordan,in the morning when I left for work. It was time for her to get home, and get to sleep. As a side note, Allison lost custody of her oldest child.
When she didn't come home I called again and left a message. I told her that this was a ridiculous way to behave and she shold be home.
I called over and over again, but never got through.
I called the police, hospitals, every place that I could think of to try to find Allison. After twenty four hours had passed, I filed a report with the police. A Detective came to question me. He informed me that Allison was being investigated for embezzlement.
As the investigation for her progressed, I learned that she had been leaving the house and frequenting a bar after our daughter and I had gone to sleep. I also learned that she was making, "advances" at certain patrons in order to "get high". I also learned that she would pay for the favor, any way she could.
Allison's family claims that they were denied contact with Jordan. My daughter. This is true. The reason for this is as follows. I did not want Jordan to feel uncomfortable in any way in her new place. I knew that she and I needed to adjust to the new situation. I thought that too many influences would make Jordan leary of the change of location. With what she was going to have to deal with in the near future, I, chose to keep our new home a "secret" for a while.
Unfortunatly, and this has never been publicized, Allison's sister Lisa, had an investigator find out where we had moved, and Lisa did infact have contact on every level with my daughter. i realized at this point that my wishes as Jordan's remaining parent were not going to be honored.
Things were certainly not perfect between Allison and I. But, I had nothing at all to do with her not coming home since that evening.
I have cooperated fully with the authorities. I did everything that I could while taking care of my daughter and working a full time job to keep things as normal as possible for my her and myself.
The reason for me finally putting in my "two cents" is, there have been so many lies, and so much backstabbing going on throughout this entire horrible ordeal, that I had to get this out in order to help me get through it for Jordan. She does not deserve any of the backlash from any of this.
Sincerely, Mike Foy, Husband of a missing wife, Father of a brave little girl. This message was typed by Sean O'Connell, my friend.
At March 26, 2007 10:40 PM,
Anonymous said…
Dear Mr. Foy,
I find your cowardice incredible. You knew we were planning on attending a conference in Wilmington this past weekend and you knew that we were there. Instead of meeting with any one of us you wait to respond until you're sure that we have left and post inflammatory and inaccurate comments on this site - a site dedicated to finding the mother of your child.
If you really think your comments here do anything but hurt good people and hinder the investigation,
if you think your daughter will grow up fine not knowing what happened to her mother,
then you have a really loose grip on reality.
This blog should have been a positive outlet for the people who are looking for Allison. And it was, until someone in Wilmington claiming to be a friend started airing dirty laundry. If you don't care about Allison anymore why don't you all start your own site, your own blog, and let this family have what little peace and comfort they can at this time.
-Peter J. Roach
At March 28, 2007 4:35 PM,
Anonymous said…
First let me say that I am very sorry for the agony Allisons loved ones are going through. Second, let me say it was good to hear from Mike no matter what anyone thinks. I too have heard the same things about Allison. She needed help. I feel that everyone is giving Mike the raw end of the deal. We all deal with things differently and I am sure he has been doing what he felt was right for he and his daughter.
At March 28, 2007 6:32 PM,
Anonymous said…
I would like Mike to do this one thing (by the way, so good to hear from you after all this time). Look at your daughter and imagine her in 20 -25 years. Can you imagine anything she could do, anything that would make you stop loving her? Is there anything that she could do that would make you turn and do nothing if she should vanish like Allison? Would you simply shrug and say to yourself "well, that's that"? Would you look at her boyfriend/husband and say "hmm, how 'bout that". Or would you turn up the ends of the earth to find out what happened to her? Would you be able to lay your head down to sleep without wondering? Would she not be the first thing you thought of when you wake up? Would she be the last thing you think of before you sleep? Would she haunt your dreams at night and your thoughts during the day? When you love someone, when you understand why someone may be the way they are you can not simply dismiss their existence.
Because Allison had problems, because she may have caused problems does not mean that people who love her can simply turn away and not wonder what has become of her.
Mike are you upset because you are under suspicion? Of course you are under suspicion, the people closest are always the first suspects. Get used to it, because until Allison is found, you will always be suspect in some people's minds. I'm not saying it's right, but it is what it is. What will you do when Jordan looks at you with that same suspicion? You of all people should be spearheading the search. You should be finding the answers for your daughter, for her peace of mind. You should be trying to find out the truth. Peoples actions, or the lack there of can be interpreted in different ways. All your calls to Allison the night she disappeared for instance. One can look at that as frustration and just having had enough of a bad situation. Did you call her that many times all the time? Or, could it be that you were desperately trying to make it look like you didn't know where she was? From where most people stand, if you aren't looking for the truth, perhaps you already know it. Allison's family needs to know what happened, they will always be searching, that is what you do when you truly love someone.
DD- Long Island
At March 28, 2007 7:02 PM,
Katherine said…
Thank you DD from Long Island. You say eloquently and kindly what I know I will struggle to say. These last blogs have left me angry, astonished, defensive of this family and incredibly sad for all.
It is hard to understand how anyone(least of all Allison's very own husband) can possibly come on to this site and bemoan their fate as unfair, be so angry and spiteful in the face of what is so clearly devastating to so many others. How can anyone worry more about what will happen to them if they come forward and not sense the urgency of this family's pleas?
How anyone can defend their own non-action in this increasingly tragic situation by tearing away (with so many untruths) the fabric of Allison's character, her person, her humanness is just simply put, inhumane. Apparently, those who blog here live in glass houses, and are happy to be the first to throw stones.
Question: If one of any of you were to disappear and a site devoted to finding you was created, what anonymous 'friends' would come forth and what would they have to say about you?
This is not a time for self-pity. Nor is it a space, as has been repeatedly mentioned, for those who feel wronged by Allison, to air their grievances.
To all those that continue to deny the requests of this family to take your negativity elsewhere, please hear this: Allison is not here to talk with you. Allison cannot defend or apologize for anything she may or may not have done. Allison hasn't seen or spoken to anyone, most importantly the two people she loved most in the world;her daughters, in eight months, despite ongoing intimations that she is out there able to do so.
If Allison is capable to return and does so (which continues to look less and less likely), don't you think this family will work dilligently to help her as they are so desperately trying to do now?
No. All of you with grievances and negative things to say have not come forward. Have not assisted in the search efforts, brought any actual evidence to light that can offer anything of use to anyone. If anything, some of you have obstructed the search by your lies or your silence. Why is it so important for all of you to come here to bring angst and pain and sadness to a family already devastated and broken by the loss of a sister/daugher as well as a grandchild/neice?
Allison's husband, by his own unwillingness to cooperate, refuse to give a lie detector test, wait three days (not 24 hours) to contact police, be overheard in anger defaming Allison in front of their child, it is HE who continues to bring the spotlight on himself as suspect.
Please, please, create a space for your anger elsewhere. This family doesn't want it and doesn't deserve it. If Allison's husband could understand the humanity in this situation, perhaps he would contact this family, actually be sorrowful for the role he played in their sister and daughter's life. Be kind, be generous. Create relationships of hope with them, allow Jordan access to her blood family.
If Allison's husband or any of his friends are interested in their truth being told and heard, this is the path they will begin walking on. One of forgiveness, compassion and healing.
At March 29, 2007 5:06 AM,
Anonymous said…
Mr. Foy, I do not know you or your wife or anyone associated with this site, I am an outsider following this blog since I got a dollar bill with this website on it. It seems that your wifes disappearance is very convenient for you. You say you don't bother looking for her because of the way she behaved. You don't look for her because you are mad at her? You are married to this woman who bore you a child. How cold are you to be able to turn your back so easily and claim it's for the good of your child. Shame on you and the friends that defend your heartless cruel actions. God help your child being brought up by such a hollow, cruel, heartless individual.
At March 29, 2007 9:07 AM,
Lisa said…
When is enough enough? All of these attacks on Allison and one another do not give any of us the answers we need and the ones we all deserve, including Allison.
All of the attacks on her being and what she supposedly did or did not do are irrelevant in finding her, and what happened that night.They do not in any way help us in this search,and if you all are so angry at her, and don't care about what happened to herthat night, then think of her children. For their sake stop with all of the nastiness it serves no one, most of all Courtney and Jordan.
Mike if it makes you and your friends feel better to continually drag Allison and her name through the mud I can't stop you. But if you really care about your daughter as you say you do, you would know and understand that you are doing more damage than good. Haven't we all been torn apart enough? Why do you continue to want to make a horrible situation even worse?
You all say that we don't know or want to hear the truth, NOT TRUE! We do, but we want the truth that will lead us to Allison. That is why a private investigator has been hired on this case, NOT to find out where you live, but to find out what happened to Allison, the mother of your child.
If sending a Christmas gift to Jordan, my niece and my childrens cousin was wrong, than I am guilty. My family wants a relationship with her and really only have her best interest at heart as well. When my thoughts and prayers are with Allison they are always with her children as well.
So, let's stop the badmouthing and get on with this investigation so that we all might have some resolution. Why not call us and speak with us directly about information you may or may not have. Please do not use this site to continue to spread anger and venom. I repeat it serves no purpose!
I love my sister and my nieces and will never stop this search, I do it because of my love for Allison my sister, but also for my nieces. I know in my heart Allison would do the same for me.
Please, please let's all resolve to do those things that will move this case forward, it is time!
At May 13, 2007 2:00 PM,
Lisa said…
Mothers Day 2007
Just wanted to take a moment and say thank you to all those who were at the prayer vigil for Allison. It was great to come together as a community and pray not just for Allison, but all the missing and their families. You being there means so much, and to get that support at this very challenging heartbreaking time gives me strength and hope. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
I also hope to see many of you at the upcoming benefit on L.I. next Sunday, to share and just be with each other. Thank you to Peter for arranging that event.
On another note, this Thursday May 17th Patricia's law will be going to the assembly in NJ. This is a law concerning missing adults which needs to be passed in all states. In NJ it is named after Patricia Viola who has been missing from Bogata NJ since Feb 2001. I hope to be testifying in Trenton and sharing Allison's story. Hopefully passing this law will prevent what happened in Allison's case amd many other missing adult cases from happening again; that is when an adult goes missing law enforcement assumes they have walked away, as that is their right. However that means they do no investigation to rule out suspicious circumstances or foul play. Therefore by the time they start an investigation which could be weeks later, the case is already cold. With this law that would change and a missing adults case would be investigated immediately.
If you are in NJ please contact your local assembly people and senators to get this bill into law. If you live in another state the bill will probably be under a different name if it has sponsorship. For more info. go to www.projectjason.org This is an important piece of legislation.
Allison, on this day not only am I thinking of you, but your two beautiful daughters whom I know were your life. They miss you and deserve the truth. I will never stop this search, because giving up is not an option. We will persevere and find the truth. I miss you and love you and wish that you were here with me today.
Lisa
At May 31, 2007 8:22 AM,
Lisa said…
Many times over these past 10 months I have been overwhelmed with feelings of sadness, uselessness, and "I can't believe that this is really happening, that this is real"
The one thing that has kept me going throughout has been my faith. Knowing that in all of life's situations and circumstances we must persevere. Difficult and at times a goal that is seemingly unattainable, but one that we must at least strive for.
The other thing that has gotten me through has been my amazing friends. I always knew that I was blessed, but you all have truly shown yourselves over these past 10 months as what you really are; GIFTS. Someone once said "Friends are the family you choose", in my case truer words have not been spoken.
That being said I must thank all of you who were at our L.I. benefit. A difficult but necessary day. You all took the time out of your busy lives to be there and from the bottom of my heart I want you to know how much that means and how much it is appreciated. A special thank you to Peter who put together the event. Its unbelievable to me that after 25 years of friendship you are always there, especially in the most difficult times and circumstances.
These last few days as I have been thinking about Allison and this ongoing investigation I have become discouraged and saddened and not knowing in a sense where to turn next. Then I recieve a letter from an old friend of Allison's who could not be at the benefit, and she spoke to my heart. I want to share some of those words with you now.
"Allison and I have been friends since we were kids. When I heard the news last year I was deeply saddened for her and your whole family. Allison has always marched to the beat of her own drum and I have always admired that in her. She has a heart of gold and I have wished nothing but the best for her." She goes on to say some other heartfelt things as well, but that is what spoke to me.
Allison had a love for life. We all must try and live in the present, moment to moment no matter what life hands us. Really that is all we have, this moment for none of us truly knows what tomorrow will bring.
Peace to you all and thank you as always for your love, support and prayers.
Lisa
At July 20, 2007 7:46 PM,
Lisa said…
Well, we are just about a week away from the one year anniversary of Allison's disappearance.
The past few weeks have been filled with confusion, sadness and frustration that at times have turned to anger and many times the feeling of being completely alone.
I know in my heart that Allison did not walk away and there is evidence mounting to that effect. I also know that someone out there knows more than they are saying, someone out there saw something and we will get to the truth eventually.
What are we to do, stop looking? Let the police continue to do next to nothing? Give up?
No, these are not options. We must, as I have been reminded lately PERSEVERE. Because if we do not persevere whats left is failure, and that is not an option. I will continue to do what my heart tells me is right.
Through this emotional rollercoaster of a year there has been good wrapped up in and around the bad. My heart has been touched by many families whom I have met and corresponded with who are in the same situation as my family. They have been so supportive and encouraging and I am so thankful for these new friendships.
There are also those angels in the midst who search tirelessly for Allison and others and are always there day and night for me.
Then there are my friends really, my family those who show up no matter what. Whether its a shoulder to cry on or advice or just listening to me rant and rave. I am truly blessed by the presence of each of you im my life. You too, speak your hearts and give me the strength to go on knowing that I am doing what is right, what is in my heart.
And of course my husband and children who have not only put up with me this past year in every way, but have loved me even more and supported me through it all. Words will never be enough.
And of course there is my little sister Allison. Not a day goes by that I do not think of you and miss you. People all have opinions, but I know you and your heart and you are a woman of compassion. On lifes journey we all get lost and confused at times, but we are also given a chance to turn it all around. ALLISON YOU DESERVE BETTER YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER!
And so I ask all of you to join us in solidarity and paryer Juy 27th -July 31st and remeber Allison and her children. Also check out a great article about Monica Caison and CUE Center in the July issue of Readers digest. It mentions Allison's case and has a photo.
As I will do as the following words say; "When the world says give up, hope whispers try it one more time"
I love you Allison,
Lisa
At July 31, 2007 8:23 AM,
Anonymous said…
Tuesday July 31st 2007
Today we leave Wilmington and head back home to our families and our "normal" lives. In reality though there has been nothing "normal" about my life for the past year.
I am not the same person I was a year ago, my family is not the same. My sister Allison is gone and there is still no resolution. It is difficult to look at life the same way. But we move forward, because we must, because we are still livivng.
I hope this trip to Wilmington has done some good, perhaps because of some of the media coverage, or the rally in front of the Junction Pub last night. Perhaps someone's memory will be shaken and come forward with some piece of information that was not known. And hopefully people will be made aware of a situation which occured in their own community and still is not resolved, perhaps some will come to understand that Allison's circumstances, her disappearance occurs everyday all over this country, and it is a serious problem.
I will leave today and once again, a piece of my heart will remain here in Wilmington, leaving for me is always the hardest. I will continue on this journey following my heart and doing whatever I must to bring my sister home some way, some how.
And once again, I implore any of you out there with any type of information to please come forward with what you know.
Thank you to all who came with me this trip as well as those who gave their time to be at the public awareness event last night. Another big thank you to all the many friends and family at home who could not be here but support me in more ways than they know. A special thank you to my husband and children who continue to encourage and support me, and of course Monica!
Please continue to keep Allison and all the missing and their families in your prayers,
Peace,
Lisa
At August 02, 2007 5:58 AM,
Anonymous said…
I am very concerned that the family arguing is getting in the way of what is important...children need their mother and I believe a decent mother would not voluntarily leave her children.
Additionally, I would like to say one thing: I am aware that the husband and his friends are all habitual cocaine abusers. It has seemed that he is not sad Allison is missing and neither are his friends.
At August 18, 2007 10:48 AM,
Anonymous said…
Lisa
Why has Jordan not been around all summer? When my kids asked him and his friends where she is , he said out of his hair. We have missed her all this time and wonder is she coming back or what.
At August 25, 2007 9:41 AM,
Lisa said…
I too would like to know where Jordan has been, and can only assume she has been with his family. If that is the case how sad that I was not notified as I live so close and would have been able to spend time with her.
When I was planning my trip to NC for the year anniversary of Allison's disappearance, I contacted Mike to see if I could take Jordan shopping or out for a meal etc. I was told to call back and he would let me know. I did and got no response. On the day of my arrival, I called again and was told that he and Jordan had to leave town on a family emergency, sorry.
I now belive that as you say, she was never around to begin with. How unbelievably sad, that a little girl without her Mommy is put in the middle.
The truth about Allison and her whereabouts have not come out yet, but they will. As much as I struggle with what to do next in her case and how to keep moving forward the one thing that keeps me moving forward are her children.
I know that Allison would want me to make sure that her children are a part of her families lives, there is not just one family here.
I will say again, that through this site by hitting the contact button you can e mail us. Perhaps all of you who know Jordan etc. can contact me and let me know what you know. This is now the second blog in a row that leaves me feeling really concerned. What you know may help in more ways than you can imagine. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SPEAK OUT! We need your help.
Please know that I am just as concerned as you. The search continues and will for as long as it takes.
Please continue to pray for Allison, her children and my entire family.
Lisa
At September 11, 2007 1:31 PM,
Unknown said…
This is Detective Overton of the Wilmington Police Department. I have been reading these blogs and see that alot of Allison's friends might have informaton that would be helpful to our investigation. Yet none of them have contacted the police. I urge anyone who was friends with Allison here in Wilmington prior to her disappearance please contact me. My office phone number is 910-341-4619.
Thank you
At October 19, 2007 3:47 PM,
Lisa said…
October 19,2007
Here we are almost 15 months later and we are still waiting for answers. Just reading the previous blogs it is easy to see that many people out there no more than they have said.
The question is then, why will these people not come forward with what they know; what are they afraid of? The detective on this case as reached out and asked people to come forward, CUE Center as asked the same, and I have been begging anyone with any information regarding my sister to please come forward and share. You may think what you know is unimportant, but every piece helps.
People of Wilmington, do you realize that in your community a young woman has vanished without a trace, a woman who worked and lived in Wilmington, whose children went to school with your children, maybe she was a neighbor. Do you all realize what that means??? Will this happen again, think about it.
One thing I know is that no matter how dark and lonely things get at times my family and I will persevere and the truth will come out and justice will be served.
The people I have met and worked with over these past 15 months, many who are in the same situation as myself, having a missing loved one have continually inspired and encouraged me. There is always hope, and my faith has carried me through as well.
This will never be over untill over turned and Allison is brought home one way or another.
Once again, I plead with you to please come forward if you know or have heard or seen anything concerning Allison's disappearance.There is still reward money out there as well. Help us to end this nightmare, you may contact me through this site, Mike Overton at Wilmington PD or CUE Center, and you may remain anonyomous.
On a different note to all of you out there who have been checking this site please continue to do so, and remember it never hurts to drop a line and see how my family is doing or what is happening. Please continue to talk about Allison and her case, and when you speak of her remember who she is and what she means to you.
Allison you will never be forgotten!
Peace and hope always,
Lisa
At December 18, 2007 9:59 AM,
Lisa said…
Tuesday December 18, 2007
Back in Wilmington and doing whatever I can to find my sister. The holidays are tough, because they bring back so many memories and remind me constantly in what I am missing because I am missing Allison.
I know that this time of year is also a lot harder on her two daughters as well. They give me hope, and that is what this season is all about, hope and life a new.
The reason I am back in Wilmington also keeps me hopeful. NC Wanted will be shooting a segment on Allison today which will run on FOX all over North Carolina. It is a good show, that has gotten good results in the past, and hopefully will lead to some answers in Allisons case. I will let all know the airdate, and try to get footage to run on this site. Please check out the shows website www.ncwanted.com as they have some pictures and a nice story on Allison. When you get to the site, click on missing persons.
I am more determined than ever to get the answers that we are seeking and even though many days are filled with frustration and feelings of hopelessness, I am some how given the courage and strength to move ahead and fight the good fight.
I remind all that there is still about $10,000 being offered in reward money to anyone with info. that leads us to Allison and what happened.
Over this holiday season please keep Allison and her children and my family in your prayers, they mean more than you know.
Time passes on, but we will never forget our loved one, in fact it is at times like these that we see her and remember her laugh and smile and love for life, that encourages me to embrace all and live knowing that Allison would want that for us all.
Peace and blessings,
Lisa
At December 30, 2007 6:43 PM,
Bill Widman said…
NC Wanted has just yesterday released a statement that a body has been found matching Allison's description.
Please check it out at www.ncwanted.com
I'll check back in to see if anyone thinks it might be her.
At January 10, 2008 9:33 AM,
Lisa said…
Jan.10, 2008
A new year and some good news here in my home state of NJ. Two years to the day the effort was started by Jim Viola "Patricia's Law" has been passed and signed by Gov. Corzine. This law will help many people in the state of NJ who have a missing loved one.
I am thankful to Jim for all his hardwork and effort and to my own local assemblywoman who co sponsored the bill after hearing Allison's story and realizing, what a no brainer this law is. I am also grateful to all my friends and family from NJ who took the time to write their local politicians concerning this law. We all have made a difference.
It is still hard for me to believe that here I sit 18 months later still searching for my sister. It is still hard for me to fathom that her case was never taken seriously from the beginning like so many other cases concerning missing adults. So now we continue to wait and hope that those people who know something come forward.
It is also my continued hope that when leads do come in Wilmington PD will investigate them fully and not halfway, they have an obligation not only to Allison and her children and my family, but to the Wilmington community at large.
We as citizens of this country now need to fight for improved training of law enforcement and better ways of handling missing persons cases. Being in touch with many families in my shoes, the stories I have heard are truly unbelievable! Things must change, and change is possible.
Grief and emotions have moved and changed so swiftly in these past 18 months that Allison has been missing. Day to day you never know how or when they will come and what they will stir up. I am learning that this grief and all these emotions that enter our beings must be accepted and now a part of my everyday life.
It is my hope that each day I along with all those that walk in these shoes are able to fully embrace these feelings and move forward. That in some way also they will make us open to what it is that we are to learn from this and all life situations, and perhaps we will be moved to reach out and help others as well. I do believe that much good can come from unimaginable heartbreaking situations.
I know as well, that we are not alone during these times in our lives. God walks with us always and never abandons us. Perhaps this is a time to take a deeper look at our own spiritual journeys and take the journey that begins from within.
I am still not in contact with my younger niece Jordan even though I continually reach out. If any of Allison's friends see her please tell me how she is. It is my hope that she and Courtney know that Allison has not left them willingly and of her own accord. They were her life and greatest accomplishments.
I will continue on this journey along with so many others who are now a part of my family, and do my best to persevere.
Allison you will never be forgotten and you are missed and loved deeply.
Lisa
At February 12, 2008 2:03 PM,
Lisa said…
After almost 19 months, is there anyone out there who still believes Allison walked away? Does anyone still believe that she has not contacted her children or her family because it is whats best, and what she wants?
Hope as I may that she is still alive and out there somwhere, I know that she never would walk away for this amount of time from her children and family! So...what has happened???
How is that I am still asking myself the same questions over and over again 19 months later?
What I do know is that somebody somewhere knows the truth, someone knows how Allison left the bar that evening and saw who she left with or whether or not she got into the taxi that was called for her. How after 19 months does that person or persons live with themselves?
People do not just disappear off the face of the earth without a trace. Who or what is everybody afraid of?
Days like today when my thoughts turn to Allison as they do so often, or two her two daughters, my grief and sadness sometimes turns to anger. Anger at things not being handled properly in this case from the beginning, anger at people who judge so easily someone else's character and life that they really know so little about, angry at how the law enforcement system in place concerning missing adults in many states does not help.
Many times that anger has a way of turning back to sadness and perhaps a little guilt on my own part for maybe not doing all that I could have or should have to help and be supportive of my sister. Maybe there were more words of encouragement I could have offered, or maybe I could have reminded her that I am always here for her, and that I love her.
Now I try to turn all those emotions and feelings into doing something positive for her and her daughters during this unbelievable time of not knowing. I will try to remain hopeful and fight the fight with perserverance, all along knowing that some day in some way the truth will be known!
Today like all days is a day to look around my life and see how blessed I am and be thankful. No one knows what tomorrow brings, we need to not waste today.
I hold fast to my memories with Allison and hope that someday somewhere whether here on earth or in heaven we will have the chance to embrace and make new memories together.
At February 18, 2008 12:53 AM,
Bill Widman said…
Dear Lisa,
You are not alone.
I too, live in NC, and I have lost a friend named Debbie, who also left a bar one night, and was never seen again. That was 10 years ago.
Here's another thing we have in common. NC Wanted has done an episode about Debbie, in which I and several friends are included in. We are still waiting for this episode to air.
We believe Debbie was murdered. We have a suspect who confessed to commiting the murder, but the judge dismissed the confession because he didn't like the way the police went about in obtaining it.
Debbie's body has never been found.
When NC wanted sent an alert, just after Christmas, about an unidentified body found in PA with ties to NC, Allison was among those mentioned as a possible identity. I was hoping you would respond to that. I responded by posted the alert on my website blog, and attempting to find who the body belongs to.
I am assuming here that you are not accepting the possibility that Allison may no longer be living. I admire that you have not given up hope that she may still be found alive, but I advise you to accept that she may not be.
Hey it's hard, I know. You don't have to tell me it's hard. But it's what you have to do. A mother does not disappear without thinking about her children, and few people forget about their families altogether.
So I'll tell you what. I invite you to visit my website at www.debbiekey.org. Should you decide to decline the invitation, please know that you are not alone. There are others who are heartbroken by such a tragic loss, and are looking for ways to deal with it as well. You might try connecting with some of them.
I can tell you that it has worked well for me.
At March 02, 2008 4:45 PM,
Lisa said…
Happy Birthday Allison,
Today I am thinking of you often and remembering the last time we were together. I am remembering birthdays from our youth and you my little sister.
Those moments in time help to put a smile on my face, and even though at times our lives could be and were filled with turmoil, the good far outweighed the bad!
I wish I had the answers that we have all been so desperately seeking these past few months, but I will never give up the search and you are now and always have been a part of my heart.
At times I wish that I could have done more or been there more for you, but I know that you know of my love for you.
I know that your children are thinking of you and missing you today as well.
Peace to you my sister wherever you are today, and I know in my heart we will meet again.
Happy 36th birthday! I miss you and love you.
Lisa
At April 11, 2008 7:37 AM,
Anonymous said…
Just watched the episode on Allison and two others missing on NC Wanted. I am amazed at how the investigators involved in her case continue to make assumptions about the kind of person Allison is and the fact they still believe that she walked away willingly. Are they trying to cover up for their mistakes, and not taking the case seriously enough in the beginning? How dare they assume that she walked away on her own, and now almost two years after the fact add to that they belive now that something may have happened in the weeks after her initial disappearance. They should not be making assumptions and airing unproven dirty laundry about her when she is still missing! She is someones daughter and Mother and deserves to be found.
I also cannot believe the nerve of her so called husband who does whatever he can to make Allison look bad as well. Whatever he says or thinks he is not the good guy in all of this and it seems like he has never taken any kind of responsibility during this whole mess. He says he was advised to not take a polygraph, what is he so afraid of? As a parent don't you want to be able to look your young daughter in the eye and tell her the truth about what happened to her Mother? If he really believes that after all this time Allison just walked away from her life then something is wrong.Why would she have just started work at a new job if she was going to leave? If they were having all these problems and Allison was doing all he claims, how was he not aware and why didn't he do something about it!
I have followed this case and am so angered and frustrated by all the assumptions and stories being told. The bottom line is a person is missing and needs to be found one way or another, and in truth it does not matter who she is or what some claim she has done! It is time for justice to be served and to bring Allison home!
People do not just vanish off the face of the earth! Somebody help this family get to the truth, it is time!!!
Someone who cares!
At May 02, 2008 12:24 PM,
Katherine said…
Lisa, you know my heart, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your Father. My entire family and network of friends offer you the same. You have no idea how many people out there have kept you and Allison and her daughters in their hearts, and in their prayers.
If we are finally bringing Allison home, as it looks like may be happening, I can only say that you are single handedly responsible. I know Monica, and Mark, and Rich and Peter and so many folks have supported and worked diligently to bring peace to your family, but it is you Lisa, who has never dropped the torch. You alone have carried the responsibility of pursuing the truth in the face of so many lies.
Many who have come to this site, have done so to defame Allison's character, to justify in some way their own unwillingness to get involved, to treat the situation with any humanity. You have maintained your dignity at times when many did not deserve an ounce of your energy.
Allison is your sister. She is, and will always be your family. You have stood for her while others turned their backs. You have fought for her when others refused to do their jobs. You have defended her when she could not. Your heart and your love has carried you through to do what was necessary, and what was right.
Jordan and Courtney will have the answers they deserve because of you. Perhaps a softening will come and those little girls will get to know what an extraordinary woman you are, their Aunt, their mother's champion.
You told me about twenty years ago that you saw Jesus in me. I did not understand at the time what that meant, or why you would say that. Your actions these last years have shown me exactly what it means to stand for those who society turns their back on. You have done exactly what Jesus would do, and in that you have spread love and faith through the gifts in your heart.
I thank you Lisa, for what you've done, for those girls, for your Father, and for your sister.
May we find resolution, and within that, peace.
I love you,
Kathy
At May 04, 2008 9:59 AM,
Anonymous said…
Lisa and all who love Allison;
We are thinking of you daily through this difficult time. Please know we are always here for you all; please ignore the statements from the ones who have not been. God Bless.
CUE Center for Missing Persons
At May 09, 2008 7:06 PM,
Anonymous said…
Cocain user....theif...liar....this is the Allison i knew...and Lisa as her sister if you knew her the way you siad you did then you would know this. she stole from people and felt no remorse, she lied and felt no shame, and she did whatever it took to get her next high...and i was her friend till she stabbed me in the back too then went on to the next victim.. am i sorry shes missing...yes, do i feel sorry for her...yes, but she is the one who did this to herself no one else....Mike has taken a very bad situation and is trying to do the best with it He is the one that deserves the pity for what Allison did to him....I wouldn't want her back either after all she put him through. best wishes to Mike and his daughter
At May 11, 2008 9:32 AM,
Lisa said…
To the previous blogger,
Are you kidding me? Stop using this blog to spread your venom and hate! If you care about Mike and Allison's daughter as you say you would stop spreading what you claim to be the truth, your comments serve no one, especially her daughters.
If you are so positive about all that you say you know, why do you constantly hide behind the word annoynomous? Why not contact me which is very easy to do through this site and let me know who you are and what you know?
I am sick and tired of people ripping others apart. I know my sister and all of her shortcomings, I spent 7 days with her and her daughter a month prior to her disappearance. It is true she was not perfect, but who is? Allison was working on changing her life! For all of you who never say who you are and continue to badmouth her, I know others who have only good things to say, and in the end does it really matter???
A mother, daughter, sister, Aunt and friend to many is missing and has been for almost two years now. If you cared about her children you would stop and see that they more than anyone need answers. I know my sister did not just walk away and leave her two children, she never would abandon them!
Do me a favor and stop coming to this site to spread hate and disparaging comments about Allison, again they serve no purpose. The truth will come out, and I believe many of you so called friends will be shocked. At the very least let me know who you are and what you know.
I know the true Allison, faults and all I was a part of her life for 34 years which is more than any of you can say. I know her heart and her love for her children, and I can longer listen to this hate!
Today is Mothers Day, think of her children and how they are feeling not knowing where there Mother is and what happened to her, and if you can find some type of concern and love within your heart pray for them and stop hurting them by disparaging their only Mother, isn't the world filled with enough hate?
Allison I love you and always have and always will, and whatever it takes the truth will come out and you will be brought home!
Lisa
At May 12, 2008 8:27 PM,
Anonymous said…
Lisa, I am really having a hard time with all of the news concerning the remains of the bodies found in Wilmington. My husband has often suggested I stay out of this situation....thinking you would contact me if you felt it necessary. I am not even sure you know who I am; my name may have come up....maybe not; anyway, instead of discussing my feelings and knowledge publicly, I would like to talk to you personally. There has not been a day that has gone by that I have not thought of Allison since her disappearance....I was close to her some months before she went missing.....she had a special place in my heart. Please call me personally....910-233-2800. Thanks, Wendy
At May 16, 2008 2:08 PM,
Anonymous said…
i am deeply sorry for all the pain both sides of this family have faced. lisa you have lost your sister mike lost his wife and the kids lost their mother. regardless on how it happened it does no good for anyone to bash anyone else. as a friend of mikes i know he is doing the best he can anyone who says other wise does not know him. i do not know lisa but wish her all the best and my heart goes out to her as well. please stop bashing on this site the kids could read whatever is put on here. and they do not need to read all the hate.
At June 06, 2008 6:15 PM,
Anonymous said…
to the previous blogger,
THANK YOU!
it is good to know that someone is friends with mike focus on what is important - not allison or mike, but the children.
there has been so much pain surrounding all of this, aren't we all tired ?
isn't it time to heal ?
At June 07, 2008 7:15 PM,
Lisa said…
Thats right, the children are important and have been my family's concern from the beginning. That is one of the reasons that it is so important to find Allison, HER DAUGHTERS NEED AND DESERVE ANSWERS!
But please do not come here on this site and say that Allison is not important. Do you know what it is like to have a missing daughter, missing sister, missing friend or any missing person at all in your life? If you did you would know that Allison is important and where she is and what happened is as well.
We don't stop loving or caring or missing someone because they are seemingly no longer "around". All missing people are somebodies loved ones and deserved to be found!
And please know that along with the answers my family so deperately seeks and wanting to bring Allison home, our hearts and concerns and love have been and always will be with her two daughters!
At July 30, 2008 6:30 AM,
Lisa said…
July 30th 2006- The day that Allison disappears and lives are changed forever. July 30th 2008-Two years later and oue lives changed, we still sit waiting for answers!We continue to hope that all the answers will be forthcoming.
Today, I ask all of you who read this to take a moment to think of Allison and pray for her and her children. I then ask that you light a candle for her at 6:30 tonight when many of us will be gathering to do the same, or whenever you can. As you think of Allison remember all who are missing and their families.
Much has been said about Allison in the media and others these past two years, much of it unsubstantiated rumors. Today we remember Allison as a Mother, a daughter, a sister, Aunt and friend. She was these to many. Today I will also remember her contagious laughter and smile.
I will remember her love for life and the times we shared from childhood to adulthood.
Allison... know that you are deeply missed and loved and thought about daily. Know also that we will persever and get to the truth and bring you home!
I love you,
Lisa
At September 21, 2008 5:48 PM,
Anonymous said…
Michael, Allison's Husband is having a memorial service for Allison on Tuesday September 23, 2008 At The Ultimate Faith Church 6328 Market Street Wilimington, NC
At September 21, 2008 5:54 PM,
Anonymous said…
The memorial serivice for Allison will be at 7:00 PM on Tuesday Sept 23 at The Ultimate Faith Church in Wilmington At 6328 Market Street.
At November 14, 2008 2:40 PM,
Anonymous said…
Allison could piss a person off quicker than just about anybody I know. She could be totally frustrating. Allison was not easy. Allison was also funny, kind, and loving. As has often been said about her these last two plus years, Allison had a great love of life - if I had met her the day she was born, or the day before she died, I would know that. It just came thru in everything she did. Contrary to what some might want people to think, family meant a lot to Allison. I can't believe that given time, time any one of us needs sometimes, Allison would not have finished mending the friendships with her family. And no one, not anyone credible, or with any sense or intuition or knowledge of people, could argue that Allison loved her daughters and loved being their mother.
It's taken a while for me to post this. It's been something I've been turning over and over, like a stone I'm waiting to wish on - someone said that once. I know that grieving takes time. And that with all the day to day craziness we move on. But for me, for now, for I don't know how long, there's just a little less in the world. Call it what you will... joy, happiness, friendship, love, light.
They're all Allison.
Godspeed.
At November 18, 2008 10:33 PM,
Anonymous said…
Thank you to whomever wrote the previous blog. In some way you are an answer to a prayer. Grieving and mourning has been difficult for me, and in many ways I can't believe that Allison's life was ended in the way that it was, that my sister a mother was stolen from her children and the rest of her family. I miss her everyday!
All that you said is so true, Allison could piss you off and was not always easy, yet there was an inherent easiness about her. No one who really knows her would ever say that her children were not her greatest joy and love, and you are right, there does seem to be a little less in this world without her, an emptiness waiting to be filled.
Her smile and laughter and genuine love of life will always be apart of my heart and something that can never be taken away.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Allison and comforting me in a way that was so needed! Allison goes to a better place and leaves behind pieces of herself in her children, her legacy. Godspeed indeed! I love you Allison
At December 26, 2008 12:19 AM,
Lisa said…
Christmas 2008
Christmas day and you are not here. Very simply put you are missed!
As we celebrate this holy day we do not forget you. We know that it is a better place you have gone to and that you are at peace. However we who are left behind have a more difficult time finding our way and working through our feelings and emotions.
We will not rest until justice is served and justice will be served!
You are now and always have been a special part of my heart. I am a better person for having known you and I miss you!
Merry Christmas to all those reading this and peace and joy and knowing and understanding of this day be with you all.
I love you and miss you sister!
At March 02, 2009 4:59 PM,
Lisa said…
March 2, 2009
Happy Birthday Allison!
Today Allison would have been 37 years old. I can't believe in July it will be three years since this whole nightmare began, three years that seem more like a lifetime.
Today is hard, and like all people who have a missing loved one, or have someone close to them who is no longer living you know that is the case. We think of what today would have been like if our loved one was here, we remember other birthdays and days of celebration and times spent together good and bad. However knowing that Allison in essance had her life stolen away from her and all of us in such a heinous, evil way makes this day even harder.
I today have tried and will continue to remember the good times, I can see Allison's smile and hear her laughter and listen to my childrens memories of their aunt. I am also comforted by the thoughts of close friends who remember Allison today as well.
While I wish she was still here I know that it is a much better place that she has gone to, and I envision her with my Mom and grandmother and all those others who have left us. I envision them all gathering at a big table together feasting, laughing celebrating and looking down upon all of us here.
Today I remember and pray for Allison's two daughters and the pain at the loss of their mother, and I keep them in my prayers. I also make a promise that while one part of this nightmare is over; we know what happened to Allison and that her life was taken, she did not walk away. While we were able to bring her home, this is not over. My family and I will continue on this journey until justice is served and whoever is responsible for Allison and Angela's deaths is caught. We will see this through to its end.
Allison loved life and was a dancer, and this poem is for her today:
It's just so hard to believe
all I have to hold is your memory.
From this side of the clouds
all I see is grief
But on the other side I know you're free and you're dancing
Dancing with angels....
Dancing...Dancing
Somewhere just out of my reach
You're keeping heavenly company
When I'm feeling lonely
it's for myself I cry
Cause there aren't any tears in paradise
Where you're Dancing...
I can almost hear you're laughter
See the fullness of your joy
Knowing that you're present with the Lord
And though today I miss you
I know the day will come
when every believer
will behold the Son and we'll be
Dancing... Dancing... with angels..
Happy Birthday Allison....I love and miss you, we all do!
At March 20, 2009 8:16 AM,
Anonymous said…
Lisa,
I know you're already at the conference, but just wanted to wish you luck.
I hope you can get to Allison and Angela's site, it's odd how that can bring some sort of peace, but whatever helps, right?
There is a lot of support for you this weekend, don't be to proud to lean on those who know what you're going thru.
Let me know how it goes with the press.
God bless.
At April 28, 2009 4:50 PM,
Lisa said…
Sun April 26th was a year that my sister Allison's remains were found in a wooded area off of Carolina Beach Road in Wilmington NC along with the remains of Angela Rothen. As I sit here and see those words appear on this screen it all still seems so surreal.
We also have recieved the news that the 5 bones found last September at the site when we returned to bring home Allison and stoppedto lay flowers were those of Allison as well. We now can fully put Allison to rest.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of my sister or my two nieces who have lost their mother. I miss Allison and wish that there had been more time together for all of us. There are so many things I would say that I didn't and things I would change if I could.
I am not the same person I was in July of 2006, nor is my family the same. A journey like the one we have been on changes evryone. As I have said many times before the blessings and lessons have also bee tremendous.Through it all God is good!
Today as I think of Allison I am also reminded of all those out there who still are searching for their missing loved one and those missing themselves. I pray for them all and they too are never far from my thoughts. It is for that reason that I ask anyone reading this today to consider making a donation to CUE Center for Missing Persons.
If it was not for Monica Caison and CUE, my family and I know that we would have never found Allison and never would have been able to bring her home! Monica was there from the beginning and continues to be with us as we seek Justice for Allison. Whether it was getting media attention, searching, advocating or a late night phone call she and CUE were always there. That is how I know how important CUE is and how she has helped and will continue to help thousands of others who walk in my family's shoes. This is a vital organization much needed and run with love and total care and unselfishness and dedication.
I know times are tough and people are always asking for donations, but I know where all this money goes to and how many people it helps! Whatever you can give, even if it's only $1, it all helps.
You can donate directly to CUE by going to the link on this website and mailing a check or by using paypal. Or if you prefer you can mail it to Allisons fund (info on home page) and I will make sure CUE gets it!
If you cannnot give at this time please say a prayer for Monica, CUE and all her volunteers as they work so tirelessly and give so freely. They truly are making a difference in this world!
Justice will be served and we will find out who murdered Allison and Angie.
Allison you are always in my heart and I love and miss you sister!
Peace and Blessings,
Lisa
At July 29, 2009 6:43 PM,
Lisa said…
Three years ago, July 30th 2006 my sister Allison left Junction Pub and Billiards in Wilmington NC and was never seen again!
September of 2009 after almost 5 months after two sets of remains were discovered off Carolina Beach Road our family recieved confirmation that one set of remains was our missing loved one, my sister Allison.
What a journey we have walked these last few years. A journey that continues but has moved in a different direction. We have brought Allison home and we know what happened, the question remains who is responsible for her brutal murder and that of Angela Rothen.
We will continue down this path until we see it through to the end and justice is served.
Even after 3 years thoughts of my sister are with me always. I wish for moments back and perhaps things done differently.
I can't help but think about the last hours of her life and the unexpecting horrible way it ended. I try not to go to that place, but at times it is difficult.
While I know that my life and who I am have been changed forever in so many ways through these circumstances, I know that Allison remains with me. Pyhsically I cannot touch her or see her, but I feel her presence and know she is with me.
I know too that as I remember my sister today I will take the time to smile and laugh as well as I am sure cry, because that is what she would want.
I also think of and remember all those families still searching for their missing loved ones and pray for them. It is truly the unknowing, the living in limbo if you will that is so difficult.
And as always I am thankful for the blessing of so many amazing people who have come into my life through all of this. And as always I must thank CUE and Monica Caison for their dedicated committed work done so lovingly, Godsends.
Please pray for all the missing and their loved ones and know that these prayers help. Become more aware in any way you can about this crisis that affects and touches so many people in our world.
I will honor you today Allison as sister, mother, aunt, daughter and friend. I love and miss you and wish that we had more time. Today I will remember your smile and laughter and love of life, and I will do my best to not miss any more moments!
You are always in my heart,
Lisa
At January 13, 2010 3:36 PM,
Anonymous said…
It has been a while since I last posted, but Allison and this ongoing murder investigation are never far from my heart and mind.
Before New Years human remains were found off River Road exactly 3.1 miles from where Allison and Angela where found. The remains were confirmed to be Priscilla Rogers who has been missing since the summer of 2009. My heart and prayers are wth her family, and I am happy that another famiy has resolution.
Now I want to know why no one is asking Wilmington PD the tough questions concerning this case which also looks like a homicide and Allison's and Angela's. In my eyes I believe there could be a connection. In any case someone has and continues to get away with murder! Where is the outrage almost 4 years later!
My family and I will not rest until there are answers and justice is served. No one deserves to die the brutal death my sister did. We move forward always with hope!
Please pray that the person or persons responsible for these deaths is found and put away to harm no others.
If you want to help, please consider donating to Allisons Memorial fund. All proceeds from this fund go directly to CUE Center for Missing Persons in Allisons name. If every person who logged on to this website gave just $1.00 imagine the difference that would be made in the lives of the missing and their families! No one is exempt and it can hapen at any time. Please see this site for information on where to send your donation.
Allison I miss you everyday, always in my heart!
Lisa
At March 01, 2010 9:45 PM,
Anonymous said…
Tomorrow March 2 Allison you would have been 38 years old. I wonder what that birthday would have looked like for you! Knowing you I am sure it would have been fun filled and would have been spent with your two beautiful daughters and probably some friends.
We will never know though, because your life was ripped from our lives, the lives of those who loved and continue to love you, and our lives have been forever changed.
I miss you everyday and I miss the opportunities that we will never get and all that we thought we had ahead. I guess that is one of the many lessons. We never know what will happen in the next moment, let alone the next day or week etc. We must live like there is no tomorrow and always let our loved ones know how we feel!
Allison we continue to fight or justice in your case and will never stop. Someone somewhere is responsible for you murder and must be held accountable. We will not stop and will continue to persevere on this part of the journey as well.
For today though I will think of you with smiles and laughter and of course love. I will remember the good times and be present in each moment as best I can for you. I will try to be more compassionate, caring and forgiving. In your name I will do all that I can to help others who walk this same journey.
With all of my heart I believe that you are in a better place and that one day we will be together again. Know that on this journey many amazing people and blessings have entered my life and that I am inspired to do and be better.
A part of my heart is forever missing but I move forward knowing that is what we all must do, but I will never forget.
Happy birthday to my little sister Allison, I raise a glass in honor and memory of you. I love you!
Lisa
At February 13, 2012 11:18 PM,
Anonymous said…
After reading all these entries it is obvious that Allison was loved by those who knew her best and outed by those who only knew the side of Allison who was out of control towards the end of her life.
For those people, you were not her real friends. You didn't know her before.
I am speaking as an outsider but I understand what coke, partying, and loosing touch with reality can do to a person and their loved ones. Those terrible things she supposedly did towards the end...things she did to fellow coke users/party friends....were not done by the Allison of old.
Those sound like the actions of a person not in her right frame of mind. Forgive her and speak kindly if you really are a friend.
There but for the grace of God go you, because by revealing her "truths" and "bad" actions, you actually reveal that you are a bird of feather. My father always said, "When you point a finger, there are three pointing right back at YOU"!
Justice for Allison!
At February 20, 2012 4:58 AM,
Anonymous said…
The police should check her friend cellphone records. It was televised that he called her a cab. This will show the number to the was that was called for Allison.
At July 07, 2012 3:08 PM,
Anonymous said…
I just watched a show about this and I did not see where they identified the cab driver. It seems that should not be that hard to do with phone records and cab records of local companies. It seems by checking the phone records of whoever called for the cab, they should be able to find the cab company and driver.
At March 10, 2013 11:49 PM,
Anonymous said…
This case is just another story of small town dumb cops.
Poor investigation of the disappearance and poor attempt of the interrogation of the cab driver person of interest.
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At December 28, 2013 3:57 PM,
tammy said…
i am at this very minute watching the tv show "disappeared".my heart goes out to allison and her family.
i just cant imagine going through what the family went through in trying to locate her. im so sorry for your loss. its so sad that another human being could do that to another. and i would still keep looking at that cab driver, or maybe even the husband. some people are good at covering their tracks, has the husband ever been giving a lie detecter test, if not maybe its time for him to take one, just saying, you never know.
At January 22, 2014 6:09 PM,
Robert in Charlotte, NC said…
Just watched the show on Disappeared. I'm a resident of NC so I always take special interest to things that happen in parts of the state I'm familiar with. Honestly, I believe we all know who the killer is, and it's good to see that he's continued to add to his Rap sheet, and is now behind bars with an 8 year sentence. Now is the time for investigators to continue the interviewing process, and offer him a plea bargain. They could offer to drop all the consolidated convictions that gave him this 8 year sentence, in exchange for a manslaughter charge if he confesses to the murder. This might not get him death, or even life in prison, but this tactic is used across the country when it's important for the family to get closure. He's already locked up.. now is the time to apply pressure. Copy and paste the below, or google Timothy Craig Iannone
http://webapps6.doc.state.nc.us/opi/viewoffender.do?method=view&offenderID=200148
The other option is to apply pressure to Tim's wife, now that he is out of the picture. Surely she's more of a human being than to protect a habitual felon with a rap sheet that long. Why throw your life away for somebody like that. You KNOW what he's capable of.
At July 29, 2016 4:30 PM,
Karen B. said…
Lisa, I just saw your comment from a few years ago regarding Priscilla Barnes. I knew her vaguely from my neighborhood. (First time to your blog.) And I agree, there is a very good chance this is a serial killer. I have so much respect for you and your family, your tenacity and strength. If I am this frustrated by these homicides, I can only imagine how you all are coping. Bless you. Karen B., Wilmington
At July 09, 2019 1:40 AM,
Anonymous said…
Shes dead lol
Im watching the documentary about her husband killing her. Why is this website still up if we all know she is dead lol. I seen the website on Tv and I just wanna let you know. Shes dead forever >0< heh whatever I dont care its just funny lol
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